This is Where You Belong

I was born and raised in Orland Park. I know Orland Park like the back of my hand. I know it’s neighborhoods, I know the shortcuts in and around town to avoid the traffic on LaGrange. I know it’s restaurants and parks. I’ve been to oodles of village events…Concerts in the Park, Taste of Orland Park, Orland Days. I’ve spent hours on summer days hanging out at Centennial pool. I know many of the village trustees and count the former Mayor among my friends. Orland Park is my hometown. I have a fondness for my hometown and feel a connection to it.

I moved to Lockport a couple of years ago. I didn’t intend to move here but a house found me (I’ll have to tell you the story sometime, it’s a pretty good one) and now I live in Lockport, Illinois. I like it here very much, but I don’t know Lockport like I know Orland Park and I don’t feel connected to Lockport like I still feel connected to my hometown. Maybe I haven’t been here long enough…but I’d like to have some of that same attachment, feeling of connection to Lockport that I feel for Orland Park. 

Is that possible?

I bought a book a while back…


This Is Where You Belong: Finding Home Wherever You Are by Melody Warnick.

I’ve only started reading it and skimmed the chapters but with interesting research and a personal story it explores falling in love with where you live:

“The average restless American will move 11 times in their life. For Melody Warnick, it was move #6, from Austin, Texas to Blacksburg, Virginia, that threatened to unhinge her. In the lonely aftermath of unpacking, she wondered: How does the place we live become the place we want to stay? In This Is Where You Belong, Warnick dives into the research around our attachments to place and travels across the country to find out what draws Americans to where they live, and what makes them want to stay. What she learns will inspire you to embrace your own community-and perhaps discover that where you live now…is home.”

In the book she identifies what she calls “Place Attachment Behaviours” those things that people attached to their community do and then creates love where you live experiments around those behaviors:

  1. Walk more
  2. Buy Local
  3. Get to Know My Neighbors
  4. Do Fun Stuff
  5. Explore Nature
  6. Volunteer
  7. Eat Local
  8. Become more political
  9. Create something new
  10. Stay loyal through the hard times

I bought the book, I’ve started reading it…I’m going to finish reading it…and then I’m going to put it into action…

The book offers ideas of things to do for each of the behaviors. Some things I’ll never do. I can’t ride my bike to work, introverted me isn’t going to host a dinner block party, and I know I’m not going to hike…anywhere. But there were lots of ideas I can do, things I think I’d like to do. So I’m going to give a bunch of them a whirl and see what happens.

And if Melody Warnick is right, the doing of those things will foster the connection I seek. Valentine’s Day might be over, but I’m going to try falling in love…with my town, Lockport IL.

Join me in my journey or begin one of your own, a journey of connection to a community and finding home wherever you are.

The Amy Curtis Group is committed to helping each client find their “This is Where You Belong” home.  We’re here when you need us, give us a holler.



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